Updated: Sep 22, 2019
I start every morning either with an elbow to the jaw or a crying baby. My husband sneaks off to work around 6 am and to my two year old, that’s his signal to crawl into bed with mommy. I understand that the days may be long but the years are short. He won’t always want to snuggle me and in truth, that was one of my biggest struggles having children. My children came out giants and after a short amount of time they were too big for their bassinet, signalling the move to their own rooms. During those first few weeks I would often sadly whisper to my husband “I hope they grow up to be cuddlers.”
Thus began my constant struggle with mom guilt. The guilt to soak up every lovely moment with my children but also maintain my own yoga and meditation practice. Pre-kids I would wake up early, have a cup of warm water with lemon (a al Ayurveda), give myself an oil massage then practice yoga with a pranayama all before I showered and went to work!
It finally dawned on me one day....why can’t I incorporate the two? It doesn’t have to be one or the other. Sure, my practice isn’t as vigorous as it used to be, but I’ve also had two giant, healthy, beautiful children so maybe it doesn’t have to be.
Meditation doesn’t have to be quiet alone time with my meditation cushion for hours at a time. I made a commitment to keep a meditation practice so I changed it to best suit my needs. Every morning now I have added “Meditation Minute” to our routine. It is as simple as sitting with my children, taking three deep belly breaths and asking them to reflect on something. Sometimes it’s listing three things that make them happy then if possible, why they make them happy.
It’s amazing to see what our tiny humans will come up with. I encourage you to give it a try. Don’t struggle with your pre and post baby self. Take those “non-negotiables” and make them best fit your new lifestyle.